Hot Girls + Hair

May 26, 2011

Sho: Hot Girls Talk About Their Feelings and Alternative Lifestyle Hair

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Written by: Erika
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(Editor’s Note: Hot Girls Talk About Their Alternative Lifestyle Hair is a new feature where Erika talks to super hot girls who have feelings about their hair as it pertains to their sexualities, identities, and histories. I think you will also see that they are hot, and you will probably have feelings about that too. Throbby feelings. If you too would like to speak to Erika about your hair, email her at erika [AT] thegaily [DOT] ca and tell her why!)


Do you have a pet name for your hair?

I don’t know if I have one. But sometimes I really do feel like my hair has a personality of it’s own; like it’s a living organism separate from me. like I have a small mammal living on my head. Like a chinchilla or something. especially first thing in the morning.

Photo Credit: Joey Jones

Favourite lesbian hair?

Well, this might make me sound like a keener, but I’ve always thought that Erika Jahn (writer for the Gaily; I’m sure you’ve heard of her) does fantastic things with her hair. That super short platinum blonde job? What a fox.

What do you think about the idea of “lesbian hair”? What comes to mind for you? Do you like the term? Do you use the term? Do you find it limiting? Oppressive? Freeing?

‘Lesbian hair’ is funny because a lot of people just immediately think “mullet”, which seems like its probably the most vehemently hated hair cut of all time. Its kind of unfortunate for a number of reasons:

  1. most lesbians don’t have mullets
  2. mullets arnt always that bad; some are pretty sexy
  3. I used to have something dangerously close to a mullet

One of my best friends once got this haircut that she hated because she was convinced it was a mullet. I thought it looked awesome and I still argue with her about it occasionally. It also looked nothing like a mullet, but I think she just thought it was ugly and mullet was the first word that came to mind to describe an ugly haircut.

So first of all, I think the wide-spread hatred of all things mullet is oppressive.

It seems like the second most recognized lesbian haircut is the Bieber (as in Justin, the famous lesbian teenybopper boytoy). However, both the mullet and the Bieber are usually pretty masculine, or at least perceived that way. Of course lots of queer women are super femme and have really femme hair, so ‘lesbian hair’ shouldn’t be so narrowly defined. My hair has been really short for a few years, but I still think of it as feminine. Once in awhile some people think I’m a teenage boy, but no one ever thought that when I had long hair. A lot of people still think of short hair as boy territory, which oftentimes translates into lesbian if youre perceived as a girl. But I think these perceptions are being challenged as short hair for women is becoming increasingly trendy. A number of celebrities that the public identifies as hetero have awesome short haircuts, and I think that’s making short hair on women less defining.


Photo Credit: Joey Jones

Talk about – if you can – your earliest memory of your hair? Of hairdressers?Of hair in magazines? Of expressing femininity or NOT?

I have a vivid memory of going into the hairdresser when the remake of Parent Trap came out with Lindsay Lohan. I brought in a picture of her hair as the hip twin from Napa and asked for the same cut. She had those short pieces around her face as was in vogue those days. The hairdresser actually refused to do it because she said I probably wouldn’t wash my hair enough and the pieces would get greasy and look like sausages dangling in front of my face. She actually said that. I distinctly remember being both extremely disappointed and also kind of horrified. So horrified that I couldn’t even bring myself to do it to myself when I got home. She was right of course—I definitely didn’t wash my hair enough. But I longed after that haircut for years.

I remember my mom cutting my hair for me with these crazy silver shears that had been in her family for a hundred years or something. Her technique involved just combing all my hair back and cutting straight across. It took us awhile to realize that the hair in the back was always a good deal shorter because of how she was cutting it. One day she cut my hair in the morning and I got on the bus and my friends made fun of me all the way to school. I never let her get near me with scissors again. But I recently had her dye my hair for me and we had a good laugh about it so its all water under the bridge.

When I switched schools after elementary school, I was totally traumatized because all the queen bees shaved their legs and dressed up for school and I got made fun of because I didn’t wear makeup and always dressed like a boy. My style changed pretty quickly and I went from wearing baseball hats everyday to being really concerned with expressing femininity. I started wearing my hair down and navigating the world of blow dryers and hair spray and curling irons and all those other insane appliances. I kind of obsessed over my hair a bit. It took me years to realize that my hair is so pin straight that blow dryers are useless and curling irons wont even make a dent, and, more importantly, that I was wasting so much time freaking out about my appearance. When that finally hit me I think I started to really think critically about beauty standards and advertising.

I kind of wish I could go back in time just to re-experience those mind-blowing moments when I discovered feminism.

Do you feel like there was a changing moment ever for you in your “hair identity” or has it remained stable throughout your coming out/exploration/development/growing upness?

In high school I had insanely long hair. It was so long that if I braided it I looked Amish. It was really pretty, but it got annoying sometimes and I was also kind of bored with it. I felt like I was both hiding behind it literally and cloaking myself in gendered expectations. I have since then come to the realization that I don’t have to chop my hair off to make a statement about the oppressiveness of gender roles, but my thoughts on the subject were not fully developed then. I think I mostly just wanted to have more fun with it. I cut it shorter before I started college, but it wasn’t until I really started experimenting with it that I realized how many assumptions are made based on hair, women’s hair especially. When I had long hair, everyone always thought I was totally straight. When I started getting edgier hair cuts, women starting hitting on me more often. When I cut it really short, straight looking men hit on me way less. When I shaved my head, people just seemed scared of me. I really enjoyed using my hair as a social experiment, but I also found it kind of overwhelming that people attached so much meaning to it.

I guess that’s how it is with appearance in general though. We make statements with our grooming and fashion choices, but there is only so much we can say with appearance alone. I do however think that fashion, design, hair, etc provide significant outlets for expressing personality and creativity, and I think that the freedom to do so is extremely important.

Photo Credit: Joey Jones

Do you feel you have “statement” hair? What is the statement?

The statement is probably this:

“I discovered a way to successfully avoid needing to shower every day. Try it, its easy and good for the environment”

Its true though. Short hair looks less greasy.

I would love it if my statement was: “Don’t be scared! Girls look great with short hair and you can totally pull it off if you want to!”

I have met so many women who have told me that they wished they could cut their hair short. Why not? You can. You should!

Do you feel there is a relationship between your hair and you sexual orientation/gender identity/politics?

Yes. It has just been announced that this is the new official haircut of the Tea Party.


Photo Credit: Joey Jones

What have people’s reactions been to your hair? Family? Friends? People in the street?

My family loves it. At least they say they do. My little sister just started college and has been having so much fun rocking what she calls a mo-mullet (mohawk/mullet), dying it pink, and shaving designs into the sides. So no one really pays attention to my hair anymore.

I shaved my head right before going to my uncle’s wedding and I had thought that my Orthodox cousins would be freaked out but they were totally into it. People surprise you sometimes. I don’t think they made any association between short hair and sexuality. Perhaps if they had they wouldn’t have liked it so much.

When I had super long hair people use to touch it all the time, usually without asking first. I thought that cutting it short would eliminate this phenomena, but then when I buzzed it people just started rubbing my head. That feels really good though so it didn’t bother me much.

The one downer thing about shaving your head if you’re female identified is that sometimes people think you have cancer, which is kind of bizarre because you still have eyebrows. I liked having a shaved head but that’s enough to keep me from buzzing it again.

Do you feel like your hair limits you in terms of partners or community or does it allow you to find partners/community or is this questions stupid and irrelevant?

This question is stupid and irrelevant. Just kidding. It probably limits me. But in the same way my weird sense of humor or bad dancing limits me. If you don’t like it, I probably wont want to date you or hang out around you anyways. I have great friends and date sexy people, so I don’t think it’s been much of an issue.

If anything, my hair is my wingman. Maybe that’s my new pet name for it.


About the Author

|Executive Editor & Co-Founder| A mostly hippy and always hungry cultural critic, closeted pop-culture lover, and food know-it-all. Half cowgirl, half Ivy leaguer. You will find me writing on the crazy sh*t that happens on my teevee, feminism, philanthropy, religion and politics. I like singing shows, high-waisted skirts, scotch, two-stepping, and all forms of breakfast foods (sweet AND salty).



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  1. Ty

    Wow – hair aside, any chick with a speed bike and an old school pic of Micheal on her wall would win my heart anytime.

    just sayin’

  2. MAB

    Love it! Hair has always sent powerful messages about your station in life. I rock a #2 all around, but have a lot of respect for those who break the mold. Very interesting piece!

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