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May 8, 2011

Sexy Sunday: “Can I add you to bbm?”

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Written by: Jai
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(Editor’s note to iPhone users: go play angry birds or something, this article does not apply to you.)
(Editor’s note to those who didn’t opt for either the iPhone or the Blackberry: props to you for taking the road less travelled.)

“Can I add you to bbm?”

Thus far I am quite aware that I am the only one who finds a) this question to be a turn-on and b) the exercise which follows to be a highly revealing and compelling social interaction.

This is because not only has that hottie just asked for my number, but because I will now get to engage in the process of navigating and ultimately determining who will get on top and scan who.

In the straight world, maybe it’s a clear-cut decision, I don’t know. Perhaps the man takes charge, whipping it out while instructing the lady to show him hers and get ready down below. (Please note: the preceding sentence was meant for comedic purposes only. The intention was not to offend, stereotype or otherwise harm any heteros.) What I’m trying to get at is the notion that gender roles are generally quite well defined and adhered to within hetero relationships and this is less often the case when it comes to same-sex interactions, dating and … well, fucking. And, more importantly for the purpose of this piece: not all gays wear their sexual position of choice on their sleeve.

All I’m saying is that you single or questioning bbmers out there might want to pay close attention to how the same-sex scanning saga unfolds as it has the potential to ensure that awkward first night experiences involving two boys with their ankles at their ears or two girls attempting to have a diplomatic dialogue over who gets to strap it on (when all each really wants to be doing is ploughing the other already) never occur.

Not convinced? This won’t be the first time I’m told I over-analyze the world around me or those in it, and certainly nothing stated above is based on empirical studies or scholarly articles. All I know is that the bottom in me gets a little weak in the knees when a girl asks me if she can scan my barcode.



About the Author

Jai
Jai
|Montreal Contributor| Critical pedagogist and media scholar, counter culture by nature, champion for the underdog, challenger of all who glorify the status quo or romanticize the past, Canadian wanderer, animal lover, washed-up athlete turned yogie.




 
 

 
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2 Comments


  1. Personally, I find it funny and ironic that overtime I try to write bbm the autocorrect corrects it to bum. See it just did it again.


  2. Ty

    haha.. wanna scan my barcode? Classy

    :)



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